MCLC: fake partners

[Denton, Kirk]

MCLC LIST
From: kirk (denton.2 at osu.edu)
Subject: fake partners
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Source: The Guardian (1/20/12):
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2012/jan/20/new-year-fake-partners-china

New year, new fake partners for China's young singletons with parents to
please
Twentysomethings returning home for the holiday are paying to hire
boyfriends and girlfriends to avoid the annual inquisition
By Tania Branigan in Beijing

Finding a new man to take home for the holidays proved surprisingly easy
for Lily Li. He had to be reliable, taciturn ­ and available for a few
hundred yuan.

"I was not looking for some perfect guy to marry. Just someone tall ­ my
parents like tall guys a lot ­ honest and not too talkative, so he doesn't
say something wrong," explained the 26-year-old.

Next week's lunar new year is China's biggest festival. It can also be a
major headache for those returning home without a potential spouse.
Pressure on young adults to settle down goes into overdrive, as gathering
family members begin the inquisition and line up possible candidates.

Taking a boyfriend or girlfriend home is a fast way to curb the
speculation, which is why Li, like other twentysomethings, has hired a
fake partner through an online agency.

"My parents want me to get married by 30," the office worker explained.
"Bringing a 'boyfriend' back home simply means I get less hassle from
relatives and my parents will stop worrying about my romantic life."

Li will pay him between 500 and 700 yuan (£51-£72) a day ­ they are still
haggling ­ to accompany her from Beijing to Hunan to meet her parents.

"I don't need him to stay long, just one night, New Year's Eve, and he can
just say work is busy and he has to go back the next day, like [the guy I
hired] last year," she said.

She is keeping the meeting deliberately short to prevent her parents
learning too much about him. Although she has vetted him over a coffee,
she does not really know him and worries he might turn out to be a thief
and steal from her home.

Despite such potential drawbacks, the phenomenon has become so well
established it has spawned films such as Contract Lover and a hit TV
drama, Renting a Girlfriend to Return Home for New Year.

One man touting his services on Taobao ­ a popular online shopping site ­
said a "basic programme" of meeting parents and visiting relatives would
cost 300 yuan a day.

But, perhaps half-jokingly, he offered optional extras including doing
chores (for 70 yuan an hour) and drinking China's lethal baijiu spirit
with relatives (at 50 yuan per 100ml). Few "couples" will have to share
bedrooms ­ families tend to be conservative in that regard ­ but some
advertisers spell out the non-sexual nature of the deal, to avoid
misunderstanding.

This may be wise, since one agent offering fake girlfriends for bachelors
did appear to have something else in mind: he was persistent in asking an
inquirer whether "other services" were needed.

Hu Xingdou, a social commentator at the Beijing Institute of Technology,
suggested that the trend for hiring fake partners had emerged from a clash
between old and new ideas.

Increasing materialism and the pressures of Chinese life made it harder
for young people to find a partner, while parents still expected their
children to marry young, he said.

But it may also reflect another enduring Chinese belief: the importance of
being filial. Many people are reluctant to upset their parents by
confronting them and would rather pretend to conform.

"Taking someone fake home is definitely not what I want, but it at least
can cheer up my parents," said Li Huahua, a 23-year-old graduate from
Sichuan who used her nickname to preserve anonymity. "They expect me to
have a boyfriend and get married at 26 or 27. Because I'm lesbian and very
certain about my sexuality, it's probably more difficult for me to fulfil
their demands and more necessary to find a cover."

She has persuaded a male friend to pretend they are a couple so she does
not have to hire a stranger. But she still has one major concern: her
mother and father might like him. "My parents might accept him as their
future son-in-law and ask me to bring him again next year," she said.
"It's not easy to have the same guy every time."

Additional research by Han Cheng